I thought that I should share how I handle it whenever things get a bit heated or thick. I don't know if it will work for anyone else, but it sure has been working for me up here in but-red, appalachia:
#1 I never start the conversations.
#2 I do my best to give simple, streamlined answers & ideas.
#3 I never say "that's a lie", and god knows that their heads are filled with them. I find myself saying instead, "that's just not true, would you like me to look up those facts for you?"
#4 Don't force-feed an infant... If the discussion goes well or poorly, no difference, I excuse myself in a timely fashion by charmingly saying: "Don't worry [insert name], America, reality & I will be waiting for you whenever you decide to turn off Fox News and join us."
It has actually been working!
I get no vibrations of distain from them, contrariwise, intrigue! Now they seem to appreciate me more and occasionally ask me questions on divers matters....
I do believe I may be here for a reason after all!
This picture has nothing to do with what I just wrote, I just really like men that wear blue-jeans & flannel,
one that owns a tractor gives me wood!